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Fitness

Learn to Expect What, Not When

Releasing expectations for when each stair-step of measured progress will arrive makes them all that much sweeter.

Justin Lind

Written by Justin Lind Last updated on March 4, 2018

It’s 1-rep max testing day, the day of the big race, or any other day when the time comes to test and measure your progress. But yet, you don’t hit that coveted PR, beat your best time, or cross a threshold that you’ve been focused on the last phase of your training. Worse yet, perhaps you did push your best forward but not as far forward as you anticipated. In either scenario, you leave disappointed and disheartened. You question what you did wrong, whether all that work was worth it, or if you’ll ever improve.

It’s 1-rep max testing day, the day of the big race, or any other day when the time comes to test and measure your progress. But yet, you don’t hit that coveted PR, beat your best time, or cross a threshold that you’ve been focused on the last phase of your training. Worse yet, perhaps you did push your best forward but not as far forward as you anticipated. In either scenario, you leave disappointed and disheartened. You question what you did wrong, whether all that work was worth it, or if you’ll ever improve.

This all seems a bit over-dramatic, but as an athlete, I’ve fallen victim to this deep discontent and as a coach I’ve watched it happen more times than I can count.

In reality, your work has paid off, you are stronger/better/faster. The true blame for your disappointment lays in your expectations.

The age-old adage tells us that discontent comes only from expectations and attachment to those expected results. In other words, what happened has happened, you have performed how you performed, perhaps it marked improvement or not, but your discontent comes from the gap between your desired outcome and the actual outcome.

Forget the Ancient Wisdom and Keep Your Expectations

While rigid attachment to any worldly factor never serves you, this is not a lesson to release your expectations.

Expectations are in fact what drives fitness. No one enters into any training (or other) journey expecting to remain where they are. Fitness is about moving forward. Expectations provide the allure to pull you hence from your present reality.

Own your expectations. Meditate on your expectations. But, you must release your vice-like grip on them alter your understanding of how progress comes.

Let’s examine the ever-elusive personal record—the proxy for progress. We use the PR as a measuring tool that gives concrete feedback about how we are improving. As anyone who has committed to any style of training can attest, PR’s rarely arrive when we expect them to, and even less so when we want them to.

PR’s feel ethereal, a seemingly random blessing from the deity or cosmic force of your choosing.

Does this mean that we should release our expectations of their arrival? No, it certainly does not—you should absolutely expect to improve. You should expect to achieve new levels of ability. These are the aims of training.

Expect the “What,” Not the “When”

Expectations only turn sour when attaching a “when” to a particular date. You can expect a new PR, you’re just never privy to when it will arrive.

Every rep of every session makes you better. Progress comes in a continuous upward line. PR’s are benchmarks, a stair-stepping line imposed over your continual progress arc. You are a mountain climber who cannot see the summit until she pulls over the edge. You are not strong enough for the next PR until the moment that you are. Each step the mountain climber takes brings her closer to the summit.

Back to our disappointment scenario from the beginning. If our discontented lifter approached their session with the expectation that eventually (and probably soon) their progress would show itself in exciting ways, a perfectly productive session would be just that, no disappointment to follow. This process applies far more broadly than with fitness and can seem even more mystical without the invaluable concrete measures of success.

After authoring hundreds of articles (here and elsewhere), I can attest that I have no idea which words will strike me or the reader the deepest. As a rock climber, the days when I finally climb a more difficult route grade feel entirely random. As a creative, passionate, competent, yet highly amateur chef, I have no idea which new dishes will knock my socks off, or further yet the socks of my loved ones.

Don’t Forego Your Expectations

The lesson in all of this is not to forego expectations. I know that I am becoming a better writer, stronger climber, and a more competent chef with each effort. I just never know when the outward measures of success will show themselves.

Show up and work hard every day. Know, truly know, that you are improving all the time. Releasing expectations for when each stair-step of measured progress will arrive makes them all that much sweeter when they finally do.

Justin Lind

About Justin Lind

Justin Lind has been an athlete and student his whole life. While hobbies and sports have come and gone, one thing has remained: a commitment to constant improvement of movement quality. Besides an obsession for health and athletics, Justin remains the consummate student and teacher.

Justin has a passion for learning how to glean the most valuable information from many different communities and philosophies. A former mechanical engineer turned coach and writer; he applies his analytical and structural ways of thinking to the world of health, fitness, and athletics.

While training heavily as a competitive Olympic lifter and CrossFit regionals athlete, Justin suffered a back injury that completely shifted his fitness and movement paradigm. He committed to understanding the flip side of intense training: recovery, mobility, and self-care. Justin soon left engineering to focus on creating empowered athletes who are highly in-tune with their bodies.

In addition to a B.S. in mechanical engineering from California Polytechnic State University at San Luis Obispo, Justin holds certifications in CrossFit Level 1, RKC Level II, and USA Gymnastics.

Justin is currently travelingthe U.S. full-time. He offers remote coaching and workshops for both kettlebells and gymnastics skills at CoachJustinLind.com.

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