Should You Date Someone Within Your Sport?

Mischele Stevens

Coach

Triathlon, Endurance Sports

Should You Date Someone Who Shares Your Fitness Obsession?

 

Single triathletes all over the world are looking for someone just like them. But is that a realistic feature to look for in a partner? Trust me, I get it. A triathlete as a partner means they understand the challenges and demands of the sport. But let’s look at a few more of the pros and cons.

 

 

Everyone has their own reasons for wanting to find someone who does the same sport. But is your sport the only passion you have? I want my significant other to have a healthy activity they do with zeal, and it would be great if it was something that I could be a part of. But that doesn’t mean we have to share an obsession with triathlon.

 

For my part, I love everything about the outdoors, so my person needs to be the same. To be honest, I spend more time playing other sports outside than training for triathlons. Bonus points for someone that will go for scenic bike ride, or hit a trail on their mountain bike. 

 

Pros Cons
Happy to go to bed early to train in the morning Nobody to watch the kids/dogs while training or racing
Birthday and Christmas presents are all new gear Spends at least as much as you on gear
Wants to travel and race Double the race entry fees
Supportive during bad training days ... And the expensive bikes
Understands the bike obsession Soul-crushing when they beat you
Usually fit and attractive Both of you are too exhausted to feel frisky
Sympathetic about injuries Watching them train while you're injured
Race time pep talks No race day "Sherpa" and cheerleader
Drives you to be better Feeling inadequate if they're better than you

 

Athletic Compatibility Isn’t That Important

The most important attribute in any athlete’s partner is support. The ongoing understanding, unwavering encouragement of your passion, the willingness to learn and be a part of your devotion to the sport. You should be equally willing to back whatever fuels their spirit. Isn’t that a more important quality than your relative race times?

 

What is most important to you that doesn’t involve your sport? That might be a better starting place when evaluating potential partners. Chances are, it will also drastically improve the quality of your dating life and ensuing relationships. Rather than discounting someone because they don’t swim, bike and run; you should think about what they can bring into your life to enrich it. Who knows, maybe you’ll learn to love a new sport with an amazing person. Best of luck out there!

 

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